It's Becoming On You!

be·come [bi-kuhm]
verb, be·came, be·come, be·com·ing.

1. to come, change, or grow to be (as specified): She became contented.
2. to come into being.
3. to be attractive on; befit in appearance; look well on: That gown becomes you.
4. to be suitable or necessary to the dignity, situation, or responsibility of: conduct that becomes an officer.
5. to become of, to happen to; be the fate of: What will become of her?


When I think about "BECOMING" I imagine a door. It's not just any door. Its simple yet ornate structure welcomes me. I am in awe. It is inviting me to pass through into its chamber. The entry way seems long but I think I am ready. I have stood here at a distance many times before today just contemplating going in this way. I really do want to go. My internal struggle begging the question "What keeps getting in my way?"

I like what I see from the outside. I wonder what is waiting for me inside? What is this anticipation I feel in my soul? I'm getting excited. I'm getting closer to becoming what I really want. Have others come this way before me? Can they help me on this path of becoming? Is there some magic incantation I must recite? "Open Sesame!" No, silly, that's not the way doors open in real life. There must be a key to unlocking this door. I will find it!

We are always in the process of BECOMING! As a Less Drama life coach I believe it's important to be intentional about who and what we want to become.

Have you taken the time in this New Year to think about what it is that you want to become? Which door will you open? Door #1, Door #2 or Door #3?

Here are 5 simple steps to finding the key
that unlocks the door:

1. Explore, discover & clarify what you really want to BECOME! Take the time to be still, to reflect and to ask yourself the question - What do I really, really, really want to BECOME next? You are worth your time. Make an appointment with yourself this coming week to wonder, dream and contemplate.

2. Believe you can BECOME it!
What negative self-talk is getting in your way from you BECOMING what you want? The truth is you can become it. You are creative, resourceful and whole. Believe it!

3. Develop and implement your "BECOMING" action plan!
Map out the route that will help get you where you want to be! Make a realistic timeline for "arrival". Remember to take small steps. Don't get discouraged by the roadblocks - find the detour and get there!

4. Make sure to have accountability!
Tell someone you trust (your partner, your bff, or your life coach) about your BECOMING. Ask them to help hold you accountable to walking through with your plan.

5. Celebrate your BECOMING!

What's On Your Playlist?

What are you listening to these days? Do you have a favorite playlist on your Ipod? I do. I'm listening to it right now as I write. Are you like me - do you like to listen to it over and over again or do you mix it up? What music is on your playlists? Take a look at the titles of my playlists. I've got playlists for my many moods and special events in my life. I love putting a playlist together for a family member or friend (when it's time to celebrate them, when they are in need of comforting words, or simply because we are having them over for dinner). There are memories in my playlists. Trisha Yearwood and Jack Johnson must rate - they've got their own playlists. Who knew you could tell so much about a person by what they listen to?

I'm writing about playlists today because I've been thinking about the voices we listen to in our heads. What gets your "airtime"? What messages/thoughts are we sending ourselves? What messages do you cling to with all of our heart? What do you think about (or "listen" to) when you are doing the mundane (like taking a shower in the morning)? Does truth get airtime or are you shuffling through the lies?

As a coach and someone who is learning to walk down the road of freedom, I know how important it is to pay attention to what messages are playing in our head. These messages are propelling us forward, keeping us stationery or even worse moving us backwards. How do we make sure we are listening to truth and silencing the lies?

Step 1 - Take inventory of what's on your playlists.

Is it truth? Are they lies (they may be subtle)? Pay close attention. What voices do you hear? What are they saying? Identify the negative messages. Search for the truth. Ask yourself who's influencing my playlists? Can the messages be trusted?

Step 2 - Download new music.

Find your truth. If it's not on your playlists now - decide what is true and healthy and what will motivate you towards the positive. Put it on the list. What voices do you still need to hear from? Which voice on your playlist is the most important? Know what your good and true voice (yes, you do have one) is saying - listen closely for it. If you need to ask a trusted friend for some "fresh" music, do it. Once you have found your truth - it's on to step 3.

Step 3 - Play it over and over again! Give it the airtime it needs. Make sure to learn these lyrics.

Write it down on a post it or 3x5 index card. Make a collage or vision board that highlights this truth. Plaster it everywhere - the bathroom mirror, your bedside table, your dashboard, your desktop. Make it known. Is it a quote? A poem? A song? Is it your truth - will it help you thrive? Ask a trusted friend or coach to help reinforce it. Keep giving it airtime. Send yourself an email/text message with that truth for your life daily. There are many ways to reinforce the good and truthful message. Make sure your playlist is loaded with truth.

Step 4 - Delete the old files.

Don't give the lies airtime. Silence them. Don't reinforce them by listening to them. Stop them in their tracks. When you hear them (and you will from time to time) - tell them to go play elsewhere. Tell them to get lost. Tell them they are useless to you. Tell them you've found your truth and you don't need them anymore. When they persist - call that trusted friend - ask for "truth" reinforcements.

Step 5 - Enjoy that peaceful, easy feeling.

Relish in the truth. Live by it. Be free.

Please note: Every once in a while a "virus" attacks or the old files mysteriously appear - if this happens - go back to step 1 and repeat.