Thursday, May 28, 2009

Who's In Your Court?




I was having lunch with my friend Suzi (www.suziqcosmetics.com) yesterday and we got to talking about the power of girlfriends - imagine that.  Girlfriends just seem to meet needs that no one else can meet for us.  Girlfriends just get us!  As many of you know, I've been blessed with an abundance of steadfast, beautiful, strong-hearted girlfriends along my journey.  I hope some of you happen to be reading this right now.

The 
Power of Girlfriends is one of the 5 gems that will stand as a foundation for my book.  I believe that if we are going to make significant, positive changes in our lives and the lives of others, we need to be intentional.  We need to be intentional about who we spend time with and who we invest in as girlfriends.  I think it's vitally important for us to have these ladies in our court - at least one of each - especially, if we want to become queens of less drama.

Your"Queen Mama" goes before you.  She's "been there and done that".  She's in the next season of life.  She listens to you with all her heart.  She holds you up when you feel like falling.  She celebrates you when you succeed.  She believes in you  when you don't believe in yourself.  She helps you see your mistakes gently (firmly when needed) and she helps you learn from them.  She holds you accountable.  She highlights your strengths and forgives you your weaknesses.  She points to the truth (even when it hurts).  She provides wisdom when you ask for it.  She shares her journey with you.  She gives you perspective.  She reminds you "this too shall pass".  

Thank you to Vickie, Miss Virginia, Joanne, Debby and Donna for being the Queen Mamas in my life.

Your
"Lady-In-Waiting" is a noble companion.  That's what they were called in Queen Elizabeth's time.  I love my noble companions - Ashley, Lara, Lauri, Kerstin and Kate.  Our lady-in-waiting is in the "same boat we are in".  We listen to each other.  We can carry on parallel conversations at the same time and not miss a beat.  We keep up with each other.  We learn from each other.  We cry with each other and oh do we laugh (belly laughs) with each other.  We celebrate each other.  We have fun together.  We listen to each other's rants.  We talk each other down off the ledge.  We know each other inside and out AND STILL love each other.  

Your "Princess" comes along behind you.  She asks you for help.  She lets you hold her tight.  She challenges you.  You GET to love her well.  You get to celebrate her.  She inspires you.  She teaches you that you really do have something to give.  She helps you to keep it real and she knows you've got your own shortcomings.  She looks up to you.  She trusts you.   She gets to learn from your mistakes (lucky her).  She laughs with you.  She reminds you that you're not crazy and you get to do the same for her.  

Julie, Wynter, Alisha, Allison, Amy and Laura - thank you for letting me be your "Queen Mama"!

Do you have a Queen Mama, a Lady-In-Waiting and a Princess in your court?  Who are they?  Do they mean the world to you?  Do you need a Queen Mama, a Lady-In-Waiting or a Princess?  Think about the women that have been placed in your life.  Could you cultivate one of these friendships?  If you're in need, be on the look-out.  Be intentional.  See who comes along your way that might just fit the bill.    

The beauty in these friendships is that they reinforce one of the values that I hold dear - the value of reciprocity - they allow us to give and receive.  Yay for girlfriends!

Yay for you,
Cindy